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Self Esteem and how it Shows

“If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” NASB)

The truth will free us from self doubts and will allow us to have a healthy view of ourselves, not an overly related view, but one that takes in our good and our bad. The truth as it is stated in John 8:31-32 will free you. Freedom is far superior to mere self esteem . Truth allows us to be who we are, unafraid of what the world will say or do to us.

What then is the truth that will set us free from today’s world and will help us acquire a genuine self esteem? We are much too concerned with our physical appearance. What the world sees is not what God sees and what He sees is not on the outside but on the inside. We are all flawed and why pretend otherwise. We need to do the best with what we have, and be satisfied with that. With that kind of attitude, we can go out among the world and forget about how we appear to others, knowing we are doing the best we know how.

We are to make the most of what we have without flaunting any of it. When we know we are doing the best we know, we will not be out enticing others to sin by our actions, words or deeds. When we do sin, and we all do, we repair the damage and make peace with our Lord and with our self and with others who may have been hurt by our actions.

As much as possible true self esteem is above arguments that don’t make much sense. To thrive on arguing over this or that truth is nonsense. No two people are going to see each God given truth in exactly the same light. How could they, each are different and each were created by God for a specific purpose.

Learning form each other is good and is commendable, but arguing over religion is ridiculous. Praying that others will see the light as God wants them to see the light is by far the better option. That ups our Christian good feelings and gets us off the judgmental hook. Taking that stance, however is never easy. We get it wrong more than we get it right. “Judge Not, be ye Judged” (Matt.7-1) is an imaginary placard ever before our eyes.

Worry over money and our lack of having enough is not a fantasy but all too real for most of us. The more we worry, however, the more energy we consume uselessly, and the less able we are to do our work more profitably. First, be honest. We must budget our money and our time and stop being wasteful. If we are truly needy, we must not let our pride get in the way of asking for help.

False pride dismisses self esteem. It takes an incredible amount of energy and our natural resources to pretend to something we are not. As a writer I know that well. I aspire to be a great writer but know that simply loving words and their ability to make wrongs right does not qualify me. Often I write what my heart wants to tell and editing it later, I am amazed at how short from my aspirations I have become.

Does self knowledge lower self esteem? Yes, of course. It lowers worldly self esteem but accepting it and allowing it to deflate our overblown aspirations, increases our Christian self esteem. The two are not complementary unless you weigh one against the other. In that sense they keep each in check: Christian self-esteem keeps the secular high esteem from traumatizing tender psyche’s beyond repair and secular low-esteem prompts one to keep on learning.

“If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” NASB)

The truth will free us from self doubts and will allow us to have a healthy view of ourselves, not an overly related view, but one that takes in our good and our bad. The truth as it is stated in John 8:31-32 will free you. Freedom is far superior to mere self esteem . Truth allows us to be who we are, unafraid of what the world will say or do to us.

What then is the truth that will set us free from today’s world and will help us acquire a genuine self esteem? We are much too concerned with our physical appearance. What the world sees is not what God sees and what He sees is not on the outside but on the inside. We are all flawed and why pretend otherwise. We need to do the best with what we have, and be satisfied with that. With that kind of attitude, we can go out among the world and forget about how we appear to others, knowing we are doing the best we know how.

We are to make the most of what we have without flaunting any of it. When we know we are doing the best we know, we will not be out enticing others to sin by our actions, words or deeds. When we do sin, and we all do, we repair the damage and make peace with our Lord and with our self and with others who may have been hurt by our actions.

As much as possible true self esteem is above arguments that don’t make much sense. To thrive on arguing over this or that truth is nonsense. No two people are going to see each God given truth in exactly the same light. How could they, each are different and each were created by God for a specific purpose.

Learning form each other is good and is commendable, but arguing over religion is ridiculous. Praying that others will see the light as God wants them to see the light is by far the better option. That ups our Christian good feelings and gets us off the judgmental hook. Taking that stance, however is never easy. We get it wrong more than we get it right. “Judge Not, be ye Judged” (Matt.7-1) is an imaginary placard ever before our eyes.

Worry over money and our lack of having enough is not a fantasy but all too real for most of us. The more we worry, however, the more energy we consume uselessly, and the less able we are to do our work more profitably. First, be honest. We must budget our money and our time and stop being wasteful. If we are truly needy, we must not let our pride get in the way of asking for help.

False pride dismisses self esteem. It takes an incredible amount of energy and our natural resources to pretend to something we are not. As a writer I know that well. I aspire to be a great writer but know that simply loving words and their ability to make wrongs right does not qualify me. Often I write what my heart wants to tell and editing it later, I am amazed at how short from my aspirations I have become.

Does self knowledge lower self esteem? Yes, of course. It lowers worldly self esteem but accepting it and allowing it to deflate our overblown aspirations, increases our Christian self esteem. The two are not complementary unless you weigh one against the other. In that sense they keep each in check: Christian self-esteem keeps the secular high esteem from traumatizing tender psyche’s beyond repair and secular low-esteem prompts one to keep on learning.

And speaking of learning, from whence comes our true knowledge? “We must live only by the Laws of God and be free!”. (Leviticus:5) Desire for freedom is our most coveted wish. We seek it everywhere and it makes our every endeavor worthwhile. Will we ever be free? Not in this world, but in the next.

Knowing that allows us to accept our shackles and chains and stops us from utilizing our precious time in trying to remove what is not ours to remove. To live in the world is to daily struggle with good and evil. No sooner do we do something good than we begin to gloat over our goodness thus permitting a little evil to take away from the original good. Will we ever win? Only with God’s help.

As I write this, the terrible tragedy in Haiti is ever before my eyes. The pictures of last night’s broadcast lingers. It does not stop the tears from welling up in my eyes to know that God is in charge. I don’t dare ask the question why, that would be foolish. We live in a different time zone and see only now, God sees the past, present, and future in one glance.

What now we ask? Slowly but surely goodness will come from this tragedy. Untold miracles only known to our Creator will transform lives and many others who may have been on the road to destruction will have been saved. Kindnesses from unlikely sources will speed the healing process. This is life in its rawest and it shows us that where eternity is concerned, self-esteem is nothing.

God formed the world by such natural actions Earthquakes pushing and shoving up ocean bottoms teaming with microscopic life mixed in with sediment created gigantic mountains and plains and yes, islands. The pain comes when such an action uproots people and causes, by its very action, new beginnings. What can we do? Pray and help if at all possible.

At such times as these, don’t we all wish we were rich? Money is needed and the first goodness coming from such a tragedy is that of the kindnesses of strangers. What else is being rich for than being able to help out in such emergencies. Whether self-esteem enters into this episode of life is questionable. Most likely even contemplating such a tragedy puts the question temporarily on hold.

But life and work must go on. How does the love of money raise or lower our Christian or secular self-esteem? The philanthropy of the world is highly esteemed and so should it be. The givers, in whatever way they earned their surplus millions, are finding altruistic ways of utilizing it. Poor children are educated, the hungry are fed and, according to the benefactor’s dictates, the money is well used.

Whatever prompts this outpouring of generosity is not the question, nor does self-esteem enter the picture, but what is more important is how God manages to do good with both good and evil. As evil intentions seek to undermine good, good stand around and picks up the pieces of the destructive forces of evil.It’s an ongoing tug of war. And in the meantime, egos and self-esteem gets dragged under and hope emerges victorious after all.

Hope is forever out in front in Christian self-esteem. It is knowing the usefulness of despair while at the same time being forced to deal with it. What about a fatal illness in a family with small children? Is all the pain and suffering for nothing? Of course not. Although the real gem of hope is away somewhere in the future, not one ounce of grief is wasted where Christian hope is concerned. What then is Christian self-esteem but hope?

It is low self-esteem uplifted. What is low self esteem? Is it the absence of hope? It could very well be a disbelief in anything beyond one’s own power to rule one’s self. How disgusting an idea and what an impossible assignment some people give themselves. It is far more profitable, where emotions and good feelings are concerned, to leave the problem with God. He has all the answers, we do not. Belief, then is the answer to all our problems.