Even the most eager young scholar will sometimes wake up with the doldrums or the ho-hums, no different than most adults. Total honesty demands that we concede to our offspring an indulgence now and then, according to our best judgment; after all, isn’t that the same that we do for ourselves? A little holiday once in a while, when truly needed, is good for morale, something upon which both students and parents rely more than they realize. In real estate, it’s “location, location, location,” but for life, generally speaking, the watchword is “attitude, attitude, attitude.” A good attitude is far more of an accomplishment than a perfect attendance record!
However, sometimes it’s more than that for a youngster who’s perhaps slipped into a somewhat frequent habit of begging off their daily responsibilities and commitments. If this is the case, parents must then apply the process of elimination in their search for a cause and a remedy.
First of all, ask your child if there is some reason that school is no longer fun or enjoyable. Let them know it’s okay if they’ve developed some reason for daily morning dread, no matter what, but that whatever it may be, it can and should be dealt with as a team. Offering sincere help is never threatening to a well-adjusted child. What usually causes any lack of confiding from a child is the fear of judgment and perhaps being a disappointment to their parent. Children most always just want to do right or “be good” in their parent’s estimation, so it shouldn’t be something contingent upon their feelings, ideas, or perceptions. What they feel is not the problem; but if they don’t feel good, there is a very real cause whether physical, mental, or emotional.
Possible reasons for avoiding attending class include being bullied, having a serious disagreement with their buddy, crowd, or even a teacher, difficulties in keeping up with assignments or with learning concepts, or perhaps they are suffering from a blow to their self-image and feeling embarrassment, shame, or self-doubt. Explore, with tact, these possibilities and any others that come to mind when talking with your child about the situation. It might not be a quick discovery but stick with it until you are either understanding of the difficulty or are generally convinced that it isn’t psychological at all.
If the latter is the case, then your next course of action is getting in to see a physician, right away, for a professional evalution of their health. Abdominal symptoms such as pain, irregularity, and appetite changes can be serious at worst; and at best are possibly attributable to such a variety of causes, many requiring clinical assessments in order to be confirmed or ruled out. Don’t try to diagnose or treat more than the occasional tummy-ache, from too much whatever, yourself, even if you are a nurse and make sure you do not delay.
No matter what the cause turns out to be, after it is resolved, don’t forget that the doldrum ho-hums will still strike once in a while. And when they do, allow yourself a day off, too, and turn it into an opportunity to make some memories with your kid at the zoo, aquarium, science center, or another favorite activity.
Remember, it’s good for morale!