You have been taking care of your loved one in your home. There is no sign of improvement, and a decision must be made whether to put your loved one in a nursing home. Your loved one is in the hospital and they cannot be released to a private home, and must have specialized nursing care. When decisions have to be made about nursing home care, the decision usually rests with the family. How can you determine whether to do it or not?
Here is a guide that might be of assistance to the family. If the person is non responsive to the treatments given, and the treatments are specialized in nature, there is usually no question as to the need of a skilled person to care for your loved one. Private duty nurses are costly, and the home environment does not provide the essential equipment needed in these situations. For instance, should the person go into cardiac arrest, the skilled personnel at a nursing home can handle the situation at a moment’s notice.
Caregivers need respite care. If you cannot find a family member to relieve the main care giver, it is a wise idea to place the seriously ill person in a nursing home for a few days, week, or month. Many nursing homes provide respite care. It is not a long term solution, but offers the caregiver some rest.
If you are the sole caregiver and no one in the family can assist you, it might be the right decision to place the ill person in a nursing home. Some folks thrive in nursing homes, because of the companionship of others. Nursing homes have come a long way from the sterile odor filled rooms. They are furnished nicely and food, activities, and basic day to day living has changed for the better. Visit one and make sure that this is the environment you desire for your loved one.
If the person has to be lifted from time to time and is immobile, it might be the right decision to place that person in a place that can readily assist in this concern.
If a person has dementia, and is violent, a nursing home might be the choice.
Guilt is hard to live with when you put a person in a home. You have to weigh the pros and cons with the entire family. It has to be a mutual decision, or the guilt will overwhelm the person who made the decision.
If the person is cognizant, you have to talk it over with them. It might mean a visit, if able, to a home. It is difficult for a person who is cognizant, to realize that they have to move into an assisted living residence or nursing home. It should be their decision, and not only the family’s.
Transition is hard for any family. Make sure that if the family decides on a home, to insure that someone from the family will visit often. Many people are placed in nursing homes, and people just forget about them. The change of living quarters becomes unbearable to them, if the family does not support them.