Nothing is stronger than the bond between a mother and her child. Not even a slight mental disorder. Bipolar disorder is one of the most common, although not completly curable, manageable conditions there is.
The thing most people do not understand is that the majority of bipolar people do not hurt others or cause harm when they are feeling down, they mainly just want to be around the people they love the most and get the most affection from. And the most loving person in the world is a child that has a mother to take care of them.
No one in this world is perfect. And if society starts singling out who is “fit” to be parents, then that is going to be one long and expensive adventure. Would they not have to then question people with virus’ such as herpes? Those parents have outbreaks that put them in bad moods and very often have to rest and endure much pain. That does not make them bad parents just because they can not run around for a few days or give their undivided attention to play time with their children.
Furthermore, the debate of what health condition a person has in relevance to being a good parent would also have to apply to people dying of cancer or aids for instance. Would it be better for the child to be taken out of the home and the parents called “unfit” because they are not always 100% healthy, or benefit the child more to spend as many happy memories as they can with their dying parent?
People can not help the circumstances that caused the bipolar condition, it is not something a person can “catch” or recieve from their own actions. It could have been genetic, might have stemmed from a childhood of abuse, or a violent and life changing situation. That in no way should ever effect or make people question the ability of bipolar patients to be good parents.
If anything, I would venture to say that it sometimes makes them even better parents than the ones that have perfect health, a squeaky clean past, and a great childhood. People learn from mistakes, incidences, and life experiences, all of which help shape and mold them into better individuals. Some just have such horrible experiences that they can not help certain “mood changes” or “depression”, but the right medication and counselling usually makes all the difference.
I, for one, was raised by a very unstable, bipolar mother, and she left me many times over the years to be raised by my father. I lived with her in my teen years and I was sexually,mentally,and physically abused in her house. She eventually got on medicine and was much better, but back then in the 90’s the word bipolar disorder was not even a common diagnosis. And the medicines we have available now were not even invented yet. I have since forgiven my mother, and I believe I learned how to manage much of my own bipolar condition from her.
I had my own daughter when I was 22 years old. After years of counselling and taking medicine to control my own anger and depression, I realized as soon as I saw my child that I was going to be the mother that I never had. The one that made sure she had a happy home, a safe environment, and trusted that I would never hurt her.
She is two now, and the doctors say she is at above average intelligence and very healthy. I have never hurt her, and I do not even spank her, yet she is well behaved and well adjusted. So, I would definitely be proof to contradict the theory of bipolar mothers can not be good parents. Yes, there are some out there, like my own mother, but the majority of moms love their children unconditionally and would do anything in the world to protect them, and no health condition can ever change that.