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Telling Partners about an Std

Discovering that you have an std can be devastating, humiliating and leave you with feelings of shame. Even if you always practiced safe sex, you still could develop a sexually transmitted disease. You do not need to have had multiple sex partners to get an STD, one time is enough. Learn all you can about whatever STD you have so that you can intelligently inform others of what the risk for infection is. You should also be aware of what the treatment options are.

The diagnosis can make you feel vulnerable to rejection but in order to behave morally, you need to not keep this a secret if you are sexually involved with someone. Give yourself some time to accept that you have a sexually transmitted disease and then make a plan for how you are going to inform former partners of your condition. This is difficult, but morally, it is the right thing to do. The problem is that many people do not do this and that is partially to blame for the increase in stds.

It can be difficult to approach someone that you used to have a relationship with and inform them that you have an STD but it really isn’t fair to let them go on not knowing. If meeting face to face is too uncomfortable, call them and tell them about it. It might be easier to talk to them on the phone. Once you get that over with, you can put the past behind you.

Expect that your former sexual partner may call you names or react in other negative ways towards you. Try to remember that you are just doing what you need to do by informing them and remind yourself that your relationship is over. Some people are going to judge you because of your std. Sexually transmitted diseases are more common than people think and they can happen to anyone regardless of how many sexual partners you have had.

Once you have taken care of telling former partners you need to plan for the future. Once you have decided to become intimate with someone new, hopefully the trust is there where having a conversation about your sexually transmitted disease will be easier. If you are considering entering into a casual sexual relationship it still is necessary to tell your partner before you have sex. Don’t be surprised if the person reacts to you by rejecting you. Without mutual trust and respect many people do not want to deal with the risks of contracting an STD.

Sex is serious. Entering into a sexual relationship with someone involves more than just worrying about unwanted pregnancies. Intimacy makes you vulnerable to possibly having your feelings hurt but also to risking contracting diseases. There are people who are immoral when it comes to being honest about their past and about being a carrier of a disease. Now that you are one of the many who have an STD, you need to act responsibly about it.